Episode 35

Published on:

3rd May 2022

Emotional Suppression & How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up (Encore) // by Ezza Mustaffa

If you’re like me, you believe on some gut level that burying and ignoring your emotions isn’t healthy - and the research continues to back that.

A study from the University of Texas found that when we avoid our emotions, we’re actually making them stronger — which can create serious implications for your body and mind, including depression, aggression, low self-esteem, and physical problems like headaches, insomnia, heart disease, intestinal problems. 

Another thing to consider, is that opening up can go both ways.  We want to hold space for our sons and daughters, but when we’re feeling off, we make a mistake, or have big feelings, it’s also OK to share these with them in an age-appropriate way.  It’s only by knowing our hardships and obstacles that our kids will understand how resilient, persistent, and courageous we are.


Getting your tween or teen to talk to you can be notoriously difficult. We’re all used to one-word answers and hearing “fine” when we ask how they’re doing.  

Today's article, "How to Get Kids to Open Up," comes from Ezza Mustaffa, a licensed professional counselor who works with individuals of all ages.

Learn about:

  • The importance of a safe emotional environment
  • Reptilian brain?!
  • 5 tips on how to create a safe space

Ezza Mustaffa received her Masters of Education in Community Counseling from Loyola University Chicago. She works with individuals of all ages and couples, presenting with a wide range of concerns. Ezza approaches therapy from a relational, integrative, and multicultural framework with skills grounded in mindfulness-based and evidenced-based approaches.

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Service, creativity, and human potential -- these things inspire Carmelita Tiu as an attorney, podcaster, creative, educator and parent. After receiving her art degree and law degree, she worked as an attorney at The Oprah Winfrey Show and OWN: The Oprah Winfrey Network for several years, then pivoted to the design and advertising world. She's also held adjunct professorships at DePaul University and Columbia College Chicago, and served on the boards of numerous cultural and community service organizations.

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