Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Carmelita Tiu

Tough topics. Whether it's a disagreement with a coworker, or tackling uncomfortably conversations with our kids, it can be hard to know how to approach things.
Today's episode focuses on communication and conversations, exploring the impact of what we say or don't say on our lives and relationships.
0:50 - Meet our guest, Rayna Rose Exelbierd, a motivational speaker, author, and advocate for kindness.4:20 - Rayna shares her experience with uncomfortable conversations, highlighting the importance of remaining calm and listening actively.11:15 - Discussing the necessity of asking specific questions to foster open communication with teens and children.15:40 - Addressing the misconception of sheltering children from challenging topics and the importance of age-appropriate discussions.21:05 - Encouraging parents to praise their children, reinforce their strengths, and instill a sense of self-worth.
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Guest Spotlight: Name HereRayna Rose Exelbierd is the Chief Empowerment Officer, CEO of The Rose Grows. For the last decade, she has worked as a motivational speaker using her personal story to share lessons of rejection, resilience, and working with people who are different. Rayna emphasizes the importance of conversation and building relationships with other communities.
She has spoken to over a quarter of a million people. Rayna Rose has even more extraordinary stories about teens who made a difference under her mentorship. Through communication and leadership training, students have changed laws, received scholarships, launched businesses, and so much more!
About Rayna Rose Exelbierd:
therosegrows.comInstagram: @therosegrows.trgLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/raynaroseexelbierd/Check out her books about individuality and kindness, The Girl Who Wore Two Different Shoes and The Girl Who Said Hello to Everyone! 

About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle, retreat host.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat.

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Grief is not exclusive to death. Guest Shameka Williams, founder of Those Without Mothers, and From Grief to Love, shares her journey with grief and the lessons she learned, including:
Giving yourself permission to grieveHow grief, loss, transition intertwineWhat can happen if we don't process our griefThe difference between processing feelings and stewing in themHow grief is like a weed
To learn more about Shameka, visit www.thosewithoutmothers.com, or find her on Instagram @shamekaspeaks, @thosewithoutmothers, @thebipolarpodcast, and @fromgriefwithlove.
About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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Kids and technology use – we’ve all asked ourselves, how much screen time should kids have?  Am I giving my kids too much?  When should they get cell phones? The list goes on.
Today's guest, Dr. Katie Davis, is an Associate Professor at the University of Washington (UW) and Director of the UW Digital Youth Lab. For nearly twenty years, Dr. Davis has been researching the impact of digital technologies on young people’s learning, development, and well-being. 
She is the author of three books, including Technology’s Child: Digital Media’s Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up (March 2023).
Tune in to hear:
Why asking "Is screen time is good or bad?" isn't the right questionHer two-step tool to supporting healthy tech experiencesWhat self-directed tech experiences are - what to look for and what to avoidA quick reframe that'll ease your mind about your tween or teen's tech timeHow we can all be a Good Enough Digital Parent
It's 25 minutes you'll be glad you listened to!
To connect with Katie:
Website: https://katiedavisresearch.com/Instagram: @katiebdaX (Twitter): @katiebda  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kedavis12/ Sign up for the Technology’s Child newsletter at https://katiedavisresearch.com/
Episode ResourcesTechnology’s Child: Digital Media’s Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up, by Katie Davis
About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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Remember getting your first period? Did you feel self conscious, confused, out-of-sorts…just like a lot of body changes around that time?
It’s time to flip puberty positive!  In this episode, Konika Ray Wong chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about puberty, all the awkwardness that comes with it, and how to help our daughters change the scripts around puberty and feel empowered as they navigate the transformation that happens throughout their tweens and teens, even into their 20’s.
Listen to hear:
Swaps to flip puberty positiveThe importance of separating puberty from sexual maturityHow puberty is a privilegeWhy normalizing change is importantAnd more!
Guest bio:
Konika Ray Wong is a science teacher and mom on a mission to flip puberty positive. She founded GPS with her daughter during the pandemic when it was obvious the world needed more girl power and science education! 
For over two decades, Konika has been a kindergarten through sixth grade science educator. She has a Masters in Education and California teaching credential from the University of San Francisco and a Bachelor of Science in Biology from Virginia Polytechnic University. A Common Sense Media certified educator who also attended the Institute for Social and Emotional Learning, she is passionate about body literacy, destigmatizing puberty, and building communities of empowered learners that confidently celebrate growth.
She recently published her first children’s book, "One in a Million - A First Book About Periods". Imagine a world where every little girl felt strong and confident in her body and every child with a uterus celebrated their superpowers. This empowering book, a guided story for kids ages four and up to read with a grownup, is the first step in that direction. In "One in a Million," children meet a cute uterus character that takes them on a journey that demystifies the process of ovulation and the menstrual cycle. The kid-friendly characters and simple scientifically accurate text set a positive tone about periods without shame or stigma.
Connect with Konika:
Website: www.girlpowerscience.comInstagram: @girlpowerscienceBuy her book, "One in a Million - A First Book About Periods" on Amazon

About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.

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Do you love learning about how our brains work, and what makes us tick?  Do you wonder what positive psychology is, and whether you’ve got a positive attitude or toxic positivity?  Me too!
In Ep. 55, host Carmelita Tiu chats with Jen Rafferty - an educator, speaker, and founder of The Empowered Educator - about brains, positive psychology, toxic positivity, the importance of feeling our emotions, and so much more.
Tune in to learn about:
What positive psychology is, on a high levelThe difference between positive psychology and toxic positivityGratitude bypasses, aka positivity bypasses Why people fall back into patterns and habits that aren’t good for themAnd more pithy neuroscience goodness!
Connect with Jen Rafferty:
Website: https://www.empowerededucator.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenrafferty_FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/theempowerededucator/Podcast:  Take Notes with Jen Rafferty
About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  
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What do you do if your daughter shares that she’s been sexually assaulted?  Do you know how you would react?  Do you know if your reaction would truly help or hinder your child?
In this powerful episode, Claire Horner and Dr. SaDohl Jones of RESET: Trauma Unstuck, share their thoughts on prevention, response, and support.  Listen to hear:
What we can do create a safe space for our kids to shareThings that can undermine our efforts to create open communicationHow to respond in the moment, in a way that supports your childWords to use as you and they process the events, the retelling and the journey of healingIf, when, or how to share their experiences with othersFoundational things parents can do to help our kids be less of a target
Guest Spotlight: Claire Horner and Dr. SaDohl Jones of RESET:  Trauma UnstuckClaire and Dr. SaDohl (suh-doll), are two sexual trauma specialists in Atlanta, Georgia.  To heal their own trauma while helping others do the same, they have dedicated their professional and personal lives to healing. They have over 39 years of combined sexual trauma recovery experience, both in the therapist chair and on the couch as clients.  
Their channel and business is called “RESET: Trauma Unstuck” and they launched “The FOF or Freak Out FREE Podcast on Valentines Day where they match survivors, helpers, and allies with resources for sexual trauma healing to increase confidence and handle life…The Freak Out Free Way.”
Connect with RESET Trauma Unstuck, Dr. Sadohl and Claire:
Email: freakoutfreepodcast@gmail.com Instagram: @resettraumaunstuck Tiktok: @resettraumaunstuck 
And check out The F O F Podcast – you’ll find expert resources for sexual trauma healing to increase your confidence and handle life…The Freak Out FREE Way.  https://www.podpage.com/freak-out-free-with-claire-dr-sadohl/

Episode ResourcesSaprea is an organization that provides FREE retreats to survivors AND educational materials to parents/educators.  Saprea exists to liberate individuals and society from child sexual abuse and its lasting impacts.Dr. Sadohl and Claire did a wonderful episode with Chris Yadon of Saprea.  Listen to the episode here on Spotify, Podpage, or Anchor. Ep. 53 - Sexual Assault: Creating a Dialogue & 7 Things to Tell Our Daughters

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